Words Can Get In The Way - How to NOT Talk To Kids
SO. FUCKING. IMPORTANT.
Learning to speak to children in a constructive, positively reinforcing, non-abusive way (which was hard to unlearn due to my own abuse) is one of the most important things i have ever learned to do. It’s also dramatically changed how i speak with adults.
Yeah, I was gonna say, actually talk to EVERYONE this way.
I think most people were talked to in ways that are closer to the words on the left than the right and that stays with you your entire life. Adults are more adept at using reasoning and logic sometimes, but this is a learned behavior that we use to filter our basic, emotional responses which are often still very childlike, especially if you were treated poorly as a child.
Yeah, this. i got into an argument with someone earlier today by pointing out, essentially, that the words on the left are a bad idea to say to one’s significant other.